2024-10-01 – Health – www.theguardian.com
I’m only asking for a hug here and a compliment there. But he says he can’t be loving unless we have more intercourse
My husband and I have been married for 20 years, but our sex life has hardly ever been fulfilling for me. After a lot of analysing and some therapy, I have realised I think this is because I only enjoy sex when I feel cared for. Small acts of love, such as an unexpected hug or him saying something flattering, really turn me on; I enjoy sex a lot on the days this has happened. But he does not show his love in this way as often as I would like. I have told him this is what I need, but he says we need to have sex more often for him to be able to behave lovingly towards me. I am sad and angry that he will not consider these little acts of love, so I no longer “give in” to sex when I know I won’t enjoy it, as I used to. I would like to have more sex, but I just don’t enjoy sex with my husband when it feels loveless.
I once saw a cartoon that spoke the truth…